Don't Let Bullies Control Your Life

Being bullied is a tormenting experience. I had a happy childhood until I went to high school. I suffered from terrible acne and students would tease me for the number of spots on my face. I had no confidence as a teenager due to what my body was putting me through. School life tough but I had it easy compared to some others. An old friend had a facial deformity and he went through hell. I felt bad for him because he was just as scared as me to tell other people to back off. There were days when as soon as he walked out the school gates he started to cry.

It’s funny how we change in life because when we stand next to each other now - people leave us alone. I started bodybuilding at 18 years old so took great pride in my health and physique. Whereas my friend went on to play rugby and built himself into a unit. We joke around and say how things would be different if we went back to school the way we are now. Nevertheless, violence is never the answer and lowering yourself to the level of the scumbags who bullied you isn’t worth it. You're better than them.

Reports vary but I read that 3.2 million students are victims of bullying every year - let alone adults who face similar issues at work. You must be a scumbag to bully someone who's working a moderate life just to provide for their family.

If you’re a victim of bullying then please act and talk to someone as soon as possible. You don’t deserve to live a miserable life. Do not let them hold you back. People do care for you and there’s no shame or guilt in admitting your struggles and need help.

Never blame yourself. We’re all born different and that’s what makes us unique. We’re all individuals who offer something to this beautiful world. Be proud of who you are and don’t ever change for someone. I found happiness after troubled school life. Those who made me unhappy are no longer a part of me. I seriously don’t give a toss about any of them.

There is always light at the end of the tunnel so stay strong!

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