How To Heal A Broken Heart
I hesitated about whether I would write a post about relationships because talking about this topic only reminds me of what I lost in the past. The breakup was the start of a tough couple of years, as it was during this time that I started to suffer from mental health issues.
I have been on both sides of a relationship. My first relationship was atrocious. I was being manipulated all the time and struggled to control my feelings. I kept returning to her even after all the shit she put me through. She showed no respect but I continued to worship the ground she walked on.
My second relationship went back and forth for a few years. We separated for over a year before I was given another opportunity to make things right. I used the time away to improve and return to a better version of myself. My goal was always to end up back in her life, and it worked. However, we split a year later, and it was crushing. I showed more affection to the girl who treated me like shit than to the one who loved me.
Most people hate being single/alone because they miss intimacy and validation. I know spending the weekends alone can suck, especially during the winter, but it’s also free time you should pay to improve your life, such as learning a new skill or working towards your dreams regardless of the difficulty. Yet people continue to waste valuable time waiting for the perfect soul mate to knock on their front door unexpectedly.
I’m not an advocate for dating apps, as I’ve never used one, but I think it’s the equivalent of playing pass the parcel. Some apps are sleazy, and the filters make most pictures deceiving. I know some people who have found success using them, so maybe it’s unfair or hypocritical to judge something I’ve never used. Nevertheless, I do think the digital age of dating takes away the fun of bumping into your soul mate down the pub or wherever you cross paths in life.
One of the most challenging paths is letting go and moving on from someone you love. It’s harder than ever to move forward now with society engrossed in social media. It only takes a few seconds to find out what your ex is up to, and it hurts when you see them move on without you. Some people move on faster than others because they withdraw their emotions a long time before the relationship ends.
My advice is to erase them from existence. You must find the courage to block them. Don’t ever fall for the ‘let’s stay as friends’ trap, either. It’s just an excuse to keep you around until they find someone to replace you. I cringe when I see people jumping back into the arms of someone who continues to hurt them. You don’t deserve to be emotionally scarred by someone who doesn’t care for you. Life’s too short to spend with someone who doesn’t value you.
If you’re going through similar events now, than please stop all contact and set yourself free. Embrace change and work on your flaws so you can give the best version of yourself to someone who truly loves you. You never know who might be on the other side of the door.